Posted on 27 July 2009
Tags: family members, free time, Fun Activities, fun event, group effort, household chores, housework, rewards

There are not a lot of people who enjoy housework, but it is something that has to get done around the home. While everyone in your family will run busy lives, the housework cannot be all given to one person in the household. It should be a group effort by everyone living in the home, which will make everyone’s life a little easier.
Sit down with the whole family and make a list of everything that needs to be done around the home. Whether it been something that needs to be done daily, weekly, or even seasonally, make sure that you include it on your list. Talk to everyone in the family to see what they would be willing to pitch in and help with. If you family members fail to cooperate, than you may need to delegate tasks to them.
Make chores fun for the whole family. Offer rewards for those who complete their tasks, but also remember you will need to offer punishments like no television until they are completed. You will also want to consider their busy lives when nominating them for tasks. Keep it realistic so that the goals are easily attainable.
Set a certain time of the week or day to do tasks. This way, everyone pitches in and helps, and things get done a lot quicker. If you can find an hour of the day where everyone is home, you can complete everything that you needed to get done, and then you can move onto more fun activities. You can even plan a fun event afterwards to keep motivating everyone to finish.
Using these tips will help you be successful in getting your whole family to pitch in with the household chores. Everyone in your family will feel satisfied that the work is complete leaving more time for everyone in the family to enjoy more free time.
Posted on 10 July 2009
Tags: free time, marriage, relationship, romantic dinners, togetherness
All too frequently parents devote their entire lives to the children. As soon as the first one comes home from the hospital, a couple’s lifestyle changes completely. Long romantic dinners, sleeping in on weekends, last minute plans with friends, or even a few hours of peace and quiet to watch a movie at home together can sometimes become what dreams are made of.
Many parents, however, feel obligated to provide this level of never ending dedication to their children from day one – much to the detriment of their relationship and even their marriage. Yet it doesn’t need to be this way, and it shouldn’t be.
If you can’t remember the last time you and your spouse had dinner together, alone, with no interruptions ¨C you are heading for trouble. Alone time is just as important after children as before. It doesn’t always need to be in a restaurant with candles and wine, but the more often you can manage these times together, the better.
Yes, babysitters can be expensive, and you can only rely on family and neighbors for so long. However, if you don’t make an effort to find opportunities to be together without the kids, even if it’s only once a week or so this lack of togetherness will become a source of heated contention. Too many wives find out the hard way that their husbands have felt neglected because the wife needs to spend all her free time with the kids.
Depending on the age of your children, you have a few options. Agreeably, working around the needs and demands of a colicky newborn can be more difficult than a few ‘tweens who demand rides to the mall and soccer practice. Nevertheless, with a little planning and even a little sacrifice where the kids are concerned, everyone can be happy.
One of the major problems that leads to fights and unhappiness in a marriage is the assumption that all activities need to include the kids. They don’t! It is perfectly acceptable to head off to outings, parties, restaurants, etc., without the children in tow. It is even acceptable to entertain at your own home without the kids being involved. To pull this off successfully, however, you need to train yourselves and your children early on that this is the way things are.